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I know that socializing is important. I am not very good at it. I have read a lot of books on chatting, communication and socializing, but I have not achieved much. I also know that this is because I have not practiced it deliberately.

This is true, but I was thinking, since I am not good at socializing, and I have read so many books, I know in my heart that socializing is important and I also have the desire to improve my social skills, so why don’t I practice? After thinking about it, I think this is my instinctive resistance. I don’t like socializing because it means sacrificing my time to be with others, and I prefer to be alone. I don’t want to practice socializing either, because I am afraid that after I learn it, the socializing that comes at any time will interrupt my original life at any time.

After finding the reason, I think I should start changing myself from the following aspects.

1. Understand the importance and value of networking and convince yourself of the importance of acquiring this skill.
2. Let myself gradually become good at socializing, because being good means I can do it faster with the least impact on my original life arrangements.
3. Let yourself gradually not resist socializing, which can be achieved by gradually experiencing the fun of socializing. Whether you like socializing or not is determined by your personality. What I can think of now is to try my best not to resist socializing.

Use the four-stage model of developing habits to plan your own social journey.

1. Use the method of forcing yourself to get throughAbstinence period。
   • Collect meaningful social exercises
   • Force yourself to practice for 1 hour every day
2. Constantly brainwashing the value and positive significance of social networking to oneself,Motivational Lack。
   • Collect some quotes
   • Describe yourself as a social being.
   • Review and reflection
3. Raise your requirements for yourself and get throughStable period。
   • Improve the quality and duration of your practice.
4. Try some tricks to get throughBurnout
   • Try to socialize with a variety of people.

The complete time for habit formation may be more than one and a half years, but I want to spend one month to see how far I can go.

After using this model for analysis, I reflected on myself and found that I am quite strict with myself, so getting through the first step of developing a habit: the abstinence period, is not a problem.
I often get stuck at the second step, the lack of motivation. I personally pay a lot of attention to logic, and it is difficult for me to recognize the value of something from the bottom of my heart. For things that have no value, I will definitely have no motivation to do them. So I have to work hard here.
mutual encouragement.